Friday, April 20, 2012

Hurting...

Hello, friends.
Without going into too much detail,
I am hurting today.
"The Teenager" isn't in a good place, and it's reeking havoc on our little family. 
We would stand in front of a moving vehicle if it meant saving our child's life.
There's nothing we wouldn't do for them.
Problem is that sometimes they don't want what they need.
Sometimes we have to do the right thing for our children
even though we know they will temporarily turn on us.
To help my mother through the times when my siblings and I weren't on the right path,
I remember her telling me she relied on
Proverbs 22:6
Direct your children onto the right path,
and when they are older, they will not leave it.
And we all returned.
Safe.
Sound.
Happy.
Doesn't make it any easier right now.
He was once my baby.
I can still see that little toe headed boy outside pushing his toy lawnmower
with his dad's socks pulled up over his knees in case he fell.
And as the only grandchild for the first 5 years of his life.
Here he is with my brother when he was almost a year old.
The good ol' days...

8 comments:

Funny in My Mind said...
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Jennjilla said...

I'm so sorry...I know your pain, but as the sister of that teenager. My brother repeatedly made poor choices and has left him with little to no options for a successful life as an adult. It's awful to watch and there isn't a day that I don't pray for my two boys that they don't go down that path themselves. My parents are wonderful people and did the very best they could...but at some point you have to say enough is enough and step back I guess...it's the worst moment ever.

I'll keep your family in my prayers!

BrownEyedGirlsMom said...

Praying for you and your family!

msprimadonna67 said...

Hang in there--it WILL get better.

Dee Stephens said...

Praying for you!!

Michelle said...

WOW did your post hit home. Our oldest (my stepson; now 21) was a troubled teen. He has multiple issues none of which he wants to own/be accountable for. A lot of which deals with his relationship or lack there of with his mother. And consequently my husband's guilt/feeling bad that his son got such a raw deal.
He left our home 2 weeks before he turned 18. He didn't want to work/go to college/anything. Just was interested in doing everything we didn't approve of. We worried about where he was sleeping; whether he was eating, all of it. But we knew that we couldn't force him to live with us. He was 18. So we prayed A LOT.
He started to college last semester, still not sure of his direction but tired of drifting. Then a few months ago he asked if he could move home. We sat down & had a long talk about expectations & tried to get an understanding of what his living with us would look like. The good news is, he still wants to move home & is moving in this next weekend. We couldn't be more happy (although feeling cautious too). Just hope it's a good fit for all of us. There's a lot of healing that has taken place these last few months.
So hang in there. My heart aches for you.

Michelle said...

WOW did your post hit home. Our oldest (my stepson; now 21) was a troubled teen. He has multiple issues none of which he wants to own/be accountable for. A lot of which deals with his relationship or lack there of with his mother. And consequently my husband's guilt/feeling bad that his son got such a raw deal.
He left our home 2 weeks before he turned 18. He didn't want to work/go to college/anything. Just was interested in doing everything we didn't approve of. We worried about where he was sleeping; whether he was eating, all of it. But we knew that we couldn't force him to live with us. He was 18. So we prayed A LOT.
He started to college last semester, still not sure of his direction but tired of drifting. Then a few months ago he asked if he could move home. We sat down & had a long talk about expectations & tried to get an understanding of what his living with us would look like. The good news is, he still wants to move home & is moving in this next weekend. We couldn't be more happy (although feeling cautious too). Just hope it's a good fit for all of us. There's a lot of healing that has taken place these last few months.
So hang in there. My heart aches for you.

Merry Mack said...

Hang in there. Those are wise words. It's so hard to see the other side of this, for both of you. I have no idea what you are going through, but I totally dread it.

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Friday, April 20, 2012

Hurting...

Hello, friends.
Without going into too much detail,
I am hurting today.
"The Teenager" isn't in a good place, and it's reeking havoc on our little family. 
We would stand in front of a moving vehicle if it meant saving our child's life.
There's nothing we wouldn't do for them.
Problem is that sometimes they don't want what they need.
Sometimes we have to do the right thing for our children
even though we know they will temporarily turn on us.
To help my mother through the times when my siblings and I weren't on the right path,
I remember her telling me she relied on
Proverbs 22:6
Direct your children onto the right path,
and when they are older, they will not leave it.
And we all returned.
Safe.
Sound.
Happy.
Doesn't make it any easier right now.
He was once my baby.
I can still see that little toe headed boy outside pushing his toy lawnmower
with his dad's socks pulled up over his knees in case he fell.
And as the only grandchild for the first 5 years of his life.
Here he is with my brother when he was almost a year old.
The good ol' days...

8 comments:

Funny in My Mind said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Jennjilla said...

I'm so sorry...I know your pain, but as the sister of that teenager. My brother repeatedly made poor choices and has left him with little to no options for a successful life as an adult. It's awful to watch and there isn't a day that I don't pray for my two boys that they don't go down that path themselves. My parents are wonderful people and did the very best they could...but at some point you have to say enough is enough and step back I guess...it's the worst moment ever.

I'll keep your family in my prayers!

BrownEyedGirlsMom said...

Praying for you and your family!

msprimadonna67 said...

Hang in there--it WILL get better.

Dee Stephens said...

Praying for you!!

Michelle said...

WOW did your post hit home. Our oldest (my stepson; now 21) was a troubled teen. He has multiple issues none of which he wants to own/be accountable for. A lot of which deals with his relationship or lack there of with his mother. And consequently my husband's guilt/feeling bad that his son got such a raw deal.
He left our home 2 weeks before he turned 18. He didn't want to work/go to college/anything. Just was interested in doing everything we didn't approve of. We worried about where he was sleeping; whether he was eating, all of it. But we knew that we couldn't force him to live with us. He was 18. So we prayed A LOT.
He started to college last semester, still not sure of his direction but tired of drifting. Then a few months ago he asked if he could move home. We sat down & had a long talk about expectations & tried to get an understanding of what his living with us would look like. The good news is, he still wants to move home & is moving in this next weekend. We couldn't be more happy (although feeling cautious too). Just hope it's a good fit for all of us. There's a lot of healing that has taken place these last few months.
So hang in there. My heart aches for you.

Michelle said...

WOW did your post hit home. Our oldest (my stepson; now 21) was a troubled teen. He has multiple issues none of which he wants to own/be accountable for. A lot of which deals with his relationship or lack there of with his mother. And consequently my husband's guilt/feeling bad that his son got such a raw deal.
He left our home 2 weeks before he turned 18. He didn't want to work/go to college/anything. Just was interested in doing everything we didn't approve of. We worried about where he was sleeping; whether he was eating, all of it. But we knew that we couldn't force him to live with us. He was 18. So we prayed A LOT.
He started to college last semester, still not sure of his direction but tired of drifting. Then a few months ago he asked if he could move home. We sat down & had a long talk about expectations & tried to get an understanding of what his living with us would look like. The good news is, he still wants to move home & is moving in this next weekend. We couldn't be more happy (although feeling cautious too). Just hope it's a good fit for all of us. There's a lot of healing that has taken place these last few months.
So hang in there. My heart aches for you.

Merry Mack said...

Hang in there. Those are wise words. It's so hard to see the other side of this, for both of you. I have no idea what you are going through, but I totally dread it.